Queer Tantra & Sacred Sexuality Festival

Edit: I made a facebook group for people who might be interested in this, check it out and join here

Hello lovely people! First of all I guess I should apologise for the recent inaction, life gets in the way and all that.

Last summer I went to the tantra festival at Osho Leela in Dorset, UK. I had a good time there, but I found myself constantly reminded of the fact that I was different from everyone there, and that I didn’t fit into the overriding model of the world. I was constantly pushing buttons and challenging people simply by being in the space and being myself, which, while ok once in a while, gets bloody exhausting after a while. Thankfully I had come with a queer gang, which made it possible for me to enjoy what I could and retreat when I needed to. I have been interested in working with sacred sexuality for a long time, but I have been put off trainings and workshops because of the heterocentricism and binary nature of the majority of tantra. In the last couple of years I have found a way in, primarily through ecstatic BDSM at Sacred Pleasures and the Queer Rites events. I have met many wonderful people who feel the same way as I do and are creating communities and events where people can explore the potential of sexuality and connection without assumptions of heterosexuality and binary gender identities.

This has got me thinking about how awesome it would be to create a queer tantra and sacred sexuality festival, two or three days long with workshops and rituals created by  established teachers and workshop leaders working with queer folk, and also with space for people to bring their own magic. I would like this to be an initial call out to see if people would be interested in such a thing, and more importantly if there are other people who would like to help make it happen! (I have some experience of organising events but not anything on this scale and definitely not on my own). As far as I know nothing like this has ever happened before, and I feel sure that there would be a lot of people who would be very excited about an event like this. Realistically I think it would happen in 2014, and I think that gives enough time for it to percolate and come together.

Edited to add: I would like this to be an inclusive rather than exclusive space, and heterosexual, binary identified people would indeed be welcome, these things just wouldn’t be assumed.

If you would be interested in this, either organising or attending, please comment below!

(I have it set so I need to approve any comments posted, so if you don’t want your comment to be public you can say so, and include your email address if you want me to get back to you)

Much love to you all, and happy equinox!

Blazingsun xx

On Desire and Will

The text says "Feel no guilt in your desire" and there is a drawing of two gender ambiguous people making out

This is a picture of a patch I got ages ago (I really need to find something to sew it onto)

Desire is something that I feel is very problematic to analyse or politicise. I had an experience when I was a teenager, when I was confused about sexuality and identity, wondering if I was feeling certain things because of this or that or the other, when I stepped back and said – “you know what? It doesn’t matter. These are my desires at the moment and that’s all I need to know”. This was a liberating realisation for me at the time and allowed me to explore my identity without going crazy with over thinking everything.

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How Do You Identify?

The above question is one that is heard a lot among queer circles, but one that I’ve always found quite strange and hard to really understand, let alone answer. If you ask me to describe myself and my experiences I’ll happily do so, but something about the word “identify” doesn’t really strike me as something I want to be doing.

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Experiencing Baphomet

This is an account of the same ritual I talked about in this post, but from the point of view of the spectator rather than the aspector. Enjoy!

Experiencing Baphomet in the Summer of 2011 at Queer Pagan Camp, Somewhere in Wales

By Jenny Peacock

The light of the leaves in the summer woods leapt on the wood walkway. My fellow travellers and I were in a land of queer spirit and queer deity, a magical and precious land which many of us have been invested in co-creating for years and which keeps spinning its wondrous web and evolving, powered by love, change and exploration.

From il giardino dei tarocchi (the garden of tarot), garavicchio, capalbio, tuscany, italy

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Gendered Spirit?

By Kris Littlesun

I am going to talk about something I think about a lot, and especially recently as I’ve been reading a few anti-trans blogs and articles* (mainly because I like the mental exercise it gives me, and to understand why people think the way that they do).

The main argument against people transitioning, from a certain kind of feminist point of view, seems to be that gender is socially constructed – that when female bodied people talk about “feeling male” that what they really mean is that they are more comfortable with the male social role than the female (and also that they have been taught to hate their female body by a misogynistic culture). They claim that the problem is the limitations of the social roles of gender – that if these roles were broken down then people would be happy being in whatever social role they fitted into best and not feel the need to change their body or to identify as a gender different to the one assigned to them at birth.

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